Category: Let's talk
Ok I have been going to college for a month now. Yesterday I was talking to my accademic advisor and some of the sign language interpreters. I guess subconsciously, I devoloped an image of what each person looked like just from things like speech, and mannerisms. I was shocked to learn that what I thought they looked like was as far from the truth as the north pole to the south pole. For exsample the woman I thought had short spikey hair, had the longest hair of all of them. Another woman who I thought had long hair really had a short bowl like cut. So, how do youdecide what a person looks like? Do you ask to feel them, or are you content with a broad description. Height, weight, hair length, eye color and body type.
I generally don't care, unless I like them, dislike them, or there's something peculiar to their personality,. I usually ask other people to describe them for me. I don't like feeling people's faces or something like that.
oooh no definnitely not into feeling peoples' faces that's just some weird thing that seems to have evolved from all those badly produced films about blind people. I think there is often more of a need to know what someone looks like if you've been able to see before, than if you haven't though. I have a vague interest, but for the most part, I don't really care. be interesting though to see what people on here think others look like ...
oooo i'm with you there about the hole face feeling thing! i only knew of one person that used to do it and i could never view her in quite the same light after i found out she did that! lol.
I have done that so often smile and to be honest the idea of laying my hands on a stranger, gives me the creeps and I'm sure they wouldn't enjoy my fumbled attemps to understand their appearance..I had an idea of how Stevie looked but it was completely wrong, he apparently resembles Orlando Bloom with long pink hair...
that would be stevey the stalker, hmmm ... a pink haired stalker!
i'm not sure wich i find more disturbing! the fact that this person has pink hair or the fact that he would willingly choose to stalk goblin! hmm! tough one!
well, if he has pink hair, that would make him kind of a freak, and only a freak would go there ...
hmm both pink hair and stalking goblin though are signs of extremely disturbed mind.
hmmm yeh. now, if the stalker has pink hair, what do ya all reckon, what does goblin look like ...
hehehehe. anybody notice a slightly recurring trend here?
back to the subject though! lol. on the hole appearances don't bother me but i do particularly like to know about a girls hair! i have always been a fan of long and straight! don't ask me why this is! i don't know!
Hehe, funny thing that, I'm a complete sucker for long and straight hair as well, soft skin and long fingers are also very attractive (and again, no idea why) apparently my sister thinks long fingers for guys are important to so it must be something genetic.
I think most guys like long hair, maybe it's a femanin thing, most guys after all would like to think of the girl in their life as being somewhat femanin ... I have long straight hair ... *grins*
Awwww gross!!!! I would never feel someone's face!!! I've actually had that done to me by a blind stranger and it was quite disturbing!!! hahaha He enjoys sculpting so while he was feeling my face, he made certain comments that just embarrassed the heck out of me. He kept telling me that I have nice cheek bones and beautifully shaped eyes... I was mortified. But I didn't tell him that though. I personally don't care what a person looks like at all. I hate it when people tell me how others look because I find myself judging them on what others have told me. So I prefer not to listen!!! But I do like a guy with big muscles though!!! I guess I like the thought of him being strong and protecting me!!! heheehehe
*sexy*
I sometimes get the urge to feel someone's face and hands. But I wouldn't do it or even ask a person if I could. I usually do that with dolls or statues. I do like to feel people's hair if they let me, especially if I hear it's different or has been cut. But usually, I just ask what people, especially my friends, look like. Besides that, or if I don't ask, I just picture how I think they would look, although usually, I think I would be way off on most people. *smiles*
Leilani
back to the hair thing, definitely, long, straight, smooth, silken, flowing back there...anyways, yeah, I must agree. I also do not like to know what people look like, it matters nothing to me.~If I like the person, I like them, if not, then I don't, the physical of it is truly unimportant
i'll happily feel any other part of a woman you understand! just not her face! lol
Dragonfire, you wrote: "Yesterday I was talking to my accademic advisor and some of the sign language interpreters" ... I didn't know you used a sign language interpreter?! Is your advisor deaf or otherwise why do you need a sign language interpreter? I'm very curious to know! *smile* Star
Being that I don't remember having sight, I really don't care or even really know how to make a "mental picture" of a person. I minly go off personality. I guess I could see why those who have had sight previously would want to know though. I guess sometimes I know if someone has long or short hair, because of conversation or just bumping into them or something, but it's nothing I usually think about.
I guess often sighties have a hard time understanding that many of us don't care too much what they look like... Once I mat a man in a train who, after just fife minutes of conversation, offered to let me feel his face... When I was about eleven, my piano teacher also wanted me to feel her face... When I hesitated, she thought it was because I was shy about it and encouraged me. In the end I did it, feeling I had to because I thought it would have been impolite to not do it. and because she insisted on it. But it made me feel quite awkward...
what i'm about to say won't make much sense i don't think but ... i don't particularly associate hair with looks! i mean obviously i realise that it is but just not for me!
the best i can do by way of an explination is to say that i really don't care what somebody looks like, however hair is important to me! lol.
Long long hair and slightly wavy at the bottom, I don't mind shoulder length, if it has a bit of a curl.This is on a bloke by the way...
Elmira I think that is dispicable a stranger forcing an 11 year old child to feel his face..I get the feeling he wasn't trying to further your education...it's really unsettling that there are people who derive pleasure from that kind of nonsense...
goblin when she was 11 it was a female piano teacher who insisted that she felt her face, not a guy! as for what else you are inferring with that post i just don't know!
Yeah, I only had one teacher amd one of my uncles want me to touch their faces. My teacher was going to be let go of or quitting because of some changes happening with my high school, and this was at the end of the year that I was in her class. I guess she thought I would know what she looked like just because of feeling her face. And my uncle must've thought the same thing. I didn't really mind but it does feel sort of awkward just touching someone else, especially just to know what they look like. I'll admit, I can remember someone's face and hair pretty easily when I touch them, but it's not like I'm going to go around asking to do that every time I see someone I know or when I meet new people. that'd just be too weird when I can just hear the person and go by their voice, personality, etc.
Leilani
Well, obviously people think we are feeling faces because it's faces they themselves use to tell people apart.
But do you think that you are as good as any sighty recognizing people from their voices? When I was new at university I found it very hard to recognize all the new people I mat there. I wonder if I had done better if I were sighted. When I only hardly know someone from some class, and maybe have talked to them once or twice, I will recognize them when I meet them in the same class again, but probably not when I meet them somewhere I don't expect them and when they say only Hi or something short like that... Often people greet me and I don't know who they are... Some sighted people say they can remember faces better than names, and I wonder if I would be one of those if I could see, because I keep forgetting names, but rather remember things like this is the girl who spent a year in Austrailia, or this is the girl whom I mat at the station when she returned from visiting her aunt... I didn't make this up, I really forgot her name but knew that I mat her there and what she was doing when I did...
Anyway, do you think you might recognize people more easily if you were sighted?
Goblin: Harp is right. This teacher was well-meaning and thought she was doing me a favour by letting me feel her face.
I get where you're coming from, Elmira. I think I would remember faces better than names if I were sighted, as I can only remember voices once I got used to them, like if I've heard them speaking often enough, if I've had them in another class before, things like that. But to me, a lot of voices sound similar so it's hard to connect them to the right name sometimes and that's what throws me off. So I guess that's why I personally like touching faces and hands of dolls and stuff like that, because it seems to give me a picture much more quickly than just an explanation, although I do know and can picture colors.
Leilani
Oh yeh know that one! In fact some people will often say “oh hello it’s …” and tell me their name, and actually I sometimes find this helpful, and although often I will know who the person is, sometimes I won’t. there’s nothing worse than someone coming up and talking to you like a long lost friend and you don’t have a clue who they are! *Grins*
o yes! i'm sure we've all been there at some point in our lives! lol
I have a lot of hassle with voice recognition obviously a distinctive accent helps and I usually can identify certain people using that, however I would constantly confuse my Uncle Callum with Dad, and vice versa, until it became a running joke